OMG! So, I know I kind of slid it into my last blog post, but I went full out on social media to share that I am an engaged lady! CJ and I got engaged on our trip and it was so so so special. I am really happy that our immediate friends and family kept things a secret until we decided to share the news with everyone. We were engaged on our third day of the trip with seven more to go, and it was like floating on a cloud the entire time.
If you’re looking for the engagement story where white doves were released, we were at the top of a mountain, and I cried uncontrollably, then you probably want to x out of this screen. When I think about our engagement, and talk with CJ about it, we deduce that it was perfect for us and true to who we are as individuals. I am so thankful for that.
It happened on Friday, September 8th around 3pm London time.
The day started off a bit silly. We had to wake up at 6am for a blog photo shoot at 7:30am. The shoot was so early so we could get some iconic shots without the heavy foot traffic. Sadly (or luckily) for us, the rain kept falling. I ended up canceling the shoot because I didn’t want to pay for soggy photos.
CJ remained cool as a cucumber, even though I’m sure he was dying inside. I later learned that he planned to ask me during the shoot.
I was so bummed because it was our last day in London, and I still hadn’t gotten the shots that I wanted. Despite his best efforts, CJ once again got roped into being my Instagram Husband and offered to take my photos if we got a break in the rain. We watched the weather and noticed there was going to be a break around 11am. So we planned to go down to the location we were going to meet the photographer and work our way to our 1:30pm reservation for High Tea at The Georgian inside Harrods.
Did we have breakfast? No.
As my anxiety kicked in (I’m a perfectionist and REALLY wanted dry shots), I was nagging CJ about directions, particularly which side of the street our Uber was going to arrive because I didn’t want our plans to get sabotaged by the weather again. I was on edge and short, and CJ clapped back, as he should’ve. I apologized, and we went on our way!
Our mini shoot went unusually smooth (I am picky as hell) and I got ALL of the shots I wanted.
I even managed to get some good ones of CJ. Later I would learn that the bulge in his left pocket is actually a ring box.
After we walked across the Westminster Bridge and hailed a cab from the Park Plaza London, we headed toward Harrods.
Can I just tell you (well, I will in an upcoming post) that I could LIVE AT HARRODS?! I have never seen such retail opulence before. We arrived early so we perused a few floors before our tea reservation (I found these shoes that were NOT in my size…gonna have to order them), but before we knew it, it was 1:30. Time for tea!
And snacks! Damn, we were hungry!
We ordered the Deluxe Tea Service, which started with a shrimp cocktail amuse bouche, a glass of sparkling rose, and the full tea service with all of the fixings and two pots of tea. We kept it classic and selected English Breakfast and Earl Grey. I could not wait for that damn tray to come out. I nearly ate my arm off beforehand and the mini roast beef and egg salad sammies were heavenly.
The tea was so good that I didn’t keep track of the amount that I consumed. Those close to me know that there is a fine line between me and caffeine crazy. If you didn’t guess, I crossed it and acknowledged that I was buzzed off of the flowing champs and cups of tea! I had the weirdest physical feeling but happy as hell, and I told CJ this, too.
Shortly after everything arrived, CJ excused himself to go to the washroom. I didn’t think anything of it, but this was his time to prepare his proposal!
When he returns, I’m snacking and sipping away, and CJ casually said to me,
“We should get married in London.”
OK, so let me interject by saying that CJ and I have had a long-running joke (or not) about eloping and “doing something crazy.” It has been going since we first started dating because we had a fast and furious love and sometimes emotion would take us there. But, that started two and a half years ago… and doesn’t come up often anymore, so I said, with some side eye.
*sigh* “It’s not funny anymore.” *Sips tea*
CJ asked why not, and I kind of just smiled, shrugged my shoulders and said something I can’t remember but I think it was something close to we should do it “for real.”
I remember that CJ said “OK” and was quiet for a little. Me, consumed with tea sandwiches and my phone, saw him get up, but didn’t expect him to do the unthinkable: get down on one knee!
When he got up, it’s like he walked in slow motion, and I couldn’t even fathom that it was happening at that very moment! I was stunned. In my head, if this was happening, it was happening in another week, in a way that I completely predicted because I know everything, or I can at least figure out everything with just a few clues.
But not this.
I didn’t even see this coming.
But it was everything that I wanted!
I just looked at him, with awe, and muttered, “Are you joking?”
But he wasn’t.
He pulled a diamond ring out of his shirt pocket and told me how he felt about me before asking, “Will you marry me?”
I guess I just kept looking at him because he started to slip it down my finger, and when he reached halfway, he asked me, “Is that a yes?”
“YES! OMG. Can we hug now?!”
And we hugged. And it could’ve been only 20 seconds, but to me, it felt like minutes. If I had to find a quote that sums up how I felt at that moment, aside from absolute euphoria, it is:
“I have found the one whom my soul loves.”
We sat, talking about his engagement plan, from my ring to the place, talking with my best friend and our families, and I just couldn’t help but think of how much thought and care that he put into this occasion. I don’t know what I expected, but whatever that was, CJ exceeded it. He managed to do the one thing no one has ever done: surprised me. As I mentioned before, I find out everything. I am pretty sure no one has thrown me a surprise party because they know I would find out. I have used this as a defense since my mother died. I did not know she was sick. She kept it from me. It has changed the way that I communicate with people and the relationships I maintain. I have never let my guard down enough for someone to do something like this for me. CJ brought that guard down, and holy sh!t it was scary but it literally changed my life. He has changed my life. Our love has changed my life. Of course, I said yes.
Meet the future Mrs. Enere, y’all! #KachetsGettingMarried
Lead photo by French Grey Photography.
Others were taken by me and CJ, a mix of DSLR and iPhone 🙂